Taking a cue from the lovely K, I’d like to take a break from my regularly scheduled blogs filled with (oft-negative) venting and life-coaching (from myself?) just to write a nice, thankful, happy entry. I suppose it would have made more sense to ensure this coincided with Thanksgiving, but to hell with it all! Everyone tried to skip right over one of the most scrumptious holidays this year anyway…
AH, negativity abounds already! Stopping, turning around, and heading back toward Positiveville.
|Yay! Happiness is fun!|
I really enjoy having positive arenas on the Internet to run to as a safe haven on bad days. I don’t particularly know or care if that sounds strange because I have met some of the best people via (mostly) positive places like Tumblr and Blogger. It’s nice to have a community full of people who love the same things you love, write about the same things you do, and support and love you without even meeting you. They see the raw nerves you bumble out onto some digital paper and still want to get to know you. How cool is that? I wish more people would embrace the positive community that DOES exist on these endless pages of web.
Speaking of, one of my old co-workers is doing it up successfully and creatively in the Big Apple. She writes a blog all about love, her addiction to it, her journey to overcome that addiction, and her relationship with the city. She recently featured me, along with many others, on her blog (another example of the Supportive Internets), allowing us to vent to a person from our past or present romantic life. Here’s that entry; I’m the fifth one in the list!
Building off of that entry (so you should probs read it), I just can’t further explain how thankful I am for my partner. I’ve written about that gratitude often, though not too often, as I like to keep most of our life private. But without him having my back, even on my shittiest of days, I don’t know how I’d get through such a trying time in my life. Without him coaching me from the sidelines, yelling “Get back up, sports fan! You’re not done yet,” I would be weaker, less brave, and apt to quit. Even when I don’t want to tell him he’s right because of my bulldog-level stubbornness, I know he’s the one person who has the same intensity to help me succeed in my self-proclaimed need for evolution. At the end of the day, he’s the man I dream up ridiculous Vines with. That’s that shit I DO like.
While some aspects of my job are… less than stellar… I so enjoy my students. They are hilarious, smart, and much more intriguing than half of the adults I’ve met over the course of my life. Even if we have a bad day, they are so astute; unlike most of us “grown-ups,” they are ready and willing to apologize, move on, and still have a professional relationship. I hope they all keep that openness in their hearts as they go out into the world because it will get them so far in life. I can’t wait to watch them grow up; I hope I can be a mentor to them for as long as they need me!
It’s really pleasing to finally see a career path (or rather, paths) I can maintain and find happiness in. For a long time, I thought a lot of me is what needed to change. It’s only recently I realized that while I do have to work on aspects of myself like my impatience and hot-headedness, a lot of what I saw as a schism in myself was just the void from never knowing what I really want to do for a living. For a long time, I had shut out my dreams and desires because everyone, from complete strangers to my friends and family, had dictated what “success” looked like. But now that I’ve stopped focusing on them and prioritized myself, now that I’ve gone through the career-wringer, finding out what fits me and what doesn’t, what my strengths are and what I could use some help with… I see myself a little more clearly. Weird how we define ourselves through external things, only to realize that if we pay a little internal attention, we can find a wealth of clarification.
There’s a lot more I’m happy about, like being able to spend copious time with my family over winter break, being able to afford heat in such a cold winter, and my new gym opening at the time of the year where I can use it the most. I could sit here all day and wax poetic about the positives in my life, but I have to return to the stressful, strenuous life of an always-tired, always-working, full-time student AND teacher……..
LAWD HAVE MERCY ON MY SOUL! And please, try to remind me not to be such a Negative Nitwit Nancy.